Top 10 Reasons You Should Come Out

1. Because it’s YOUR life and you are the only one that gets to live it. Regardless of your family’s opinions, or the people at your church, or at your school, this is YOUR LIFE. In the same way that you would not let someone just come and take your life away from you, why would you let them steal your life in this other way? In a way that stops you from finding true love and happiness? Why let other people’s limited understanding of things, stop you from living the life of your dreams?? Ask yourself, would any of those people give up their marriage just because you didn’t approve of it? Would they not pursue their careers and dreams just because you told them not to?? The answer to that is 100% NO. So why should you?
2. To find friends that get you. Sure straight friends are cool and all that. But there’s really something different about finding your gay group of friends. It’s about finding friends that understand all that it means to be LGBTQ and all that comes with it. It’s a group of friends you can be yourself about and not worry if they “get it” or if they’re uncomfortable or if they’re just trying to be politically correct by being nice to you. 
3. To date. In order to start dating girls, or whoever you’re into, you’re going to have to come out so that they can find you. Or so you can find them, because sometimes femmes are accidentally camouflaged and blend in with the straight girls. But once they know you’re gay, they usually make sure you know they are too. 
4. To find your purpose in life. Yes, coming out can affect you finding and following your true purpose in life. Why? Because being gay doesn’t just affect who you love, it can affect your whole life in amazing ways. You could end up working with LGBT youth. You might end up as a political activist, or in philanthropic work with an LGBTQ group. You might end up a teacher or a writer, or even a scientist. But your view on the world expands when you’re honest about who you are with yourself and the world. And in turn your world expands in ways you can’t even predict. You will meet amazing people and have opportunities that are unique to you, if you’re true to yourself. 
5. To have more fun. I’m just going to say it, I think gay people are more fun. I mean even our business events are awesome. For example the Los Angeles LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce (pre-pandemic) would always hold these fabulous cocktail parties in the coolest LA spots. Giving everyone the perfect excuse to go out and meet a bunch of cool gay entrepreneurs and “network” over drinks. They were always the most fun “business events” I’ve ever gone to, probably because it felt like a legit excuse to get dressed up and go to a club on a weeknight. 
6. To be more fashionable. Ok, so this one doesn’t just automatically happen as soon as you come out of the closet. And it does take conscious effort on your part. But as any member of the LGBTQ, you’re somehow not just allowed, but almost expected to be free and have more fun with fashion. It’s not lost on me how many designers, stylists and other creatives in the beauty industry are gay. It’s definitely a thing and it could be your thing. So why not embrace your gayness and use it as an excuse to express yourself as loudly and creatively as you want with fashion? 
7. To appear more interesting to straight people. After you come out, you will inevitably find yourself in a social situation where you are the only queer one among a group of straight friends. In these cases you will most likely encounter at least some extra attention on your personal life, as they show how progressive and inclusive they are by asking you about your dating life. They will usually ask you what type of girl you’re attracted to and than immediately start trying to set you up with the only other gay girl they know, no matter how far away from the description of your type she might be. They may also be more interested in your opinion as an unbiased gay, on their own relationship matters or, again, fashion. 
8. To get more straight girls. Oddly enough a lot of straight women love lesbians. This literally could be an entire book. But to keep it simple: To a specific type of straight woman, lesbians are like a challenge, a fetish and a taboo all wrapped up into one person. Don’t be surprised when straight women flirt with you. Sometimes it’s just to flirt and sometimes it’s because she’s down for a secret fling that she may or may not tell her man about. Beware of these women. 
9. To look better and feel better. I hate to break it you, but a lot of lesbians look way hotter as lesbians. Just look at Kristen Stewart. She is WAY hotter now that she’s out and more comfortable with herself. And that sort of comfort with who your are translates into confidence, which usually increases your magnetism and attractiveness in general. 
10. To find true love. After you’ve had your fun dating and kissing as many girls as your heart desires. One day you might want to find the love of your life, your soul mate, your twin flame, all that gooey good stuff. Well, it’s a lot harder to find that special someone when you’re hiding who you are and what you want in life. So if you want to find the girl of your dreams, be proud of who you are and put yourself out there. When the right one crosses her path, she’ll be able to spot you by the rainbows shooting out of your eyes at her. 

There are actually way more reasons than this. The list is as endless as your desires to be happy and fulfilled. For those of you that are still in the closet, I hope that someday you’ll feel safe enough to come out. Life really is better out here.

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