The evolution of the Lesbian U-Haul syndrome
A few days ago Remi and I were invited over to my good friends, Maggie’s new place. I would love to say that we were invited over simply for her to show off her new digs but since when is anything that easy?
Our invite had stemmed from an ill advised post I took down after inadvertently hurting Maggie’s feelings. The post stemmed from a lot of misunderstandings, gossip, she said, “She said” bullshit, a few ex’s thrown in the mix and voila …. we had the makings for what could have been a huge friendship ending blow up.
But alas, Maggie has some of the biggest balls you will ever see on a lesbian. She doesn’t put in for the back stabbing gossiping thing. Nope. She pretty much calls you on the floor and will tell you straight to your face that she dislikes you and why. Which is awesome because you never have to wonder where you stand with her or worry that she’s throwing knives at your back after she offers you cheese and crackers. If there’s any knives to be thrown, she’s honorable enough to tell you it’s coming and even give you a fair chance to defend yourself, face to face, like real women.
So even after I took down the offending blog, she wouldn’t let it go. She insisted that we meet face to face and hash things out.
Thank God.
We showed up her her new spot, drank wine and got everything out in the open. In the end our friendship was not only secure but renewed …. AND …. as it turns out, she and Remi get along pretty well. Ahhhhhh …. what a relief since their initial contact was not promising.
With all of the dyke drama out of the way, I want to tell you about her brilliant set up she and her girlfriend have. Are you ready? OK, get this: No, they didn’t move in together. They did something much cooler. They got a duplex!
So now, she and her sexy lady are living side by side. Perfect for those middle of the night quickies, but they still have all the privacy they need. When they get in a fight they can both just go to their own separate apartments. But they’re close enough to have that feeling of intimacy that comes from living with your love.
It’s the best of both worlds!
Remi and I left that night super stoked that the evening had gone so well and talking about double dates, but since then I haven’t been able to stop thinking about how awesome that set up is …. ummmmmm ….. I’m not jealous per se …. but let’s just say that it’s a good thing that green looks good on me. 🙂
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Your friend Maggie sounds super cool. I really appreciate when chicks have the breasts to lay it out there – it’s gutsy, honest and real…and even if you end up breaking up the friendship because of other factors, there are aspects of the person you have to respect.
So props to Maggie…and I’m glad you two hashed it out. It’s good for everyone to have a friend that calls them out.
As for the arrangement? Kind of cool, in a noncommittal kind of way. I’d assume that “whatever happens in my duplex stays in my duplex.” Which is awesomely cool if that’s your deal. As you say, it’s perfect for a booty call…and you can stretch out on your own bed at the end!
But, if you’re in it for the long haul…taking the leap can be scary – but if you’re with the right person, finding independence in the midst of shared living quarters isn’t really that hard. If my gf and I didn’t have things we did separately (I fence, for example)…we’d just die. At the end of the night, I still get a great romp.
Aw, thanks for the props – on all accounts. You’re a dear friend to me and I protect and defend my relationships till the end.
For the record, the separate yet together living quarters are NOT for midnight quickies or booty calls. It is simply a step in a dwelling committed direction without over doing it too soon. We BOTH have our reasons for maintaining our independent abodes, also we both know that given time we will share the same roof, hopefully one we OWN.
Next, wine tasting in Temecula to get you dessert wine drinkers into some real wine. 😉
I told hottie about this post. She laughed but then stopped laughing when she knew I was dead serious. We had a LONG drawn out conversation about this.
Guess what!? She now totally agrees!
HA. Dawg 1 Hottie 0.
im happy you guys made up.. thought you guys were like TIGHT cant say i ever thought you guys would have an argument but yea happy for you guys…