Lesbian Hanky Code
This last Saturday I was out at one of the local lesbian dive bars and I saw a butch chick flaggin’ an orange hankie right in the center of the back of her pants. I was trying to remember what orange meant, it had to be something good. But I was also trying to figure out what it meant if you wear a hanky in the middle. So I did a little research and here you go:
Hankies are usually worn in either the back left or right pockets, however, they can also be worn around the wrist, around the ankle or leg at the thigh above the knee, or around the neck with the knot/tie going either right or left. Other objects can also be used such as keys and key chains or watch fobs and even a set of handcuffs (Bondage), to let people know if you are ‘top’ or ‘bottom’.
Left = Top/Active
Right = Bottom/Passive
If worn in the back on the center belt loop, it translates as ‘versatile’.
Here are some of my favorites: (Remember left/right = top/bottom)
Black – heavy SM
Grey – bondage
Grey w/black – light SM
Black w/White stripe – likes black bottoms or tops (depending on which side you’re flaggin’)
Charcoal – latex fetish
Black Velvet – takes videos/will perform for the camera
Blue, Robin’s egg – 69er/anything but 69ing
Blue, Navy – fucker (top), fuckee (bottom)
Red – fister/fistee
Red w/White Stripe – shaver/shavee
Maroon – cuts/bleeds
Red, Dark – 2 hand fister/fistee
Pink, Light – strap-on fucker/fuckee
Fuschia – spanker/spankee
Gold – two looking for one/one looking for two
Orange – anything anything/nothing now just cruising
Apricot – two tons o’ fun/chubby chaser
Green, Kelly – hustler(for rent)/john (looking to buy)
Green, hunter – daddy/looking for daddy
Olive Drab – military top/military bottom
Beige – rimmer/rimmee
White velvet – voyeur/will put on a show
Mosquito netting – outdoor sex
White w/multicolor dots – hosting an orgy/looking for an orgy
I need to go shopping …. I’m thinking an olive drab hanky for Remi – for her left pocket and I’ll make do witih a white velvet or orange one …. of course it will look awesome right in the middle 😉
For the full Hanky Code Chart check out Gay Hanky Codes.
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What about wearing your keys in your front pocket? i heard if you wear it in your front left pocket you’re looking to take someone home. If in your right, you’re looking to be taken back to someone’s home. Or something like that.
I can always count on you to bring me the perversity of lesbian culture. Does anyone really do this?
I’ve seen a few women do this at clubs, usually butch women. But how do i know they’re flaggin and not just making a fashion statement?
Allow me to recount the colors I have in my closet and see what said colors reveal about my sexual proclivities:
Black, Grey, Charcoal, Blue Robin’s Egg, Blue Navy, Dark Red, Light Pink… In short, I’m a whore up for anything. Yeah, that’s about right 😉
oh shit, who knew that bandanas meant anything? i usually go with a black one in my right pocket, but it actually means “i’m left handed so my wallet’s in my left pocket so this guy’s gotta go on the right and i just like black bandanas.”
Hmmm, I have never seen this before. Maybe this is more of an LA thing? I need to go out and do some research 😉
Here in Philly, some wear them just because. Oh, and Color doesn’t signify anything. P.S. It’s been 10 L-o-n-g Days. When will you blog again. You’re an everyday addiction !
here:
http://www.the-px.com/flagging.htm
It’s not a LESBIAN hanky code, it’s just A hanky code. Gay men started it long long ago. Now a days, even heteros use it. The colours are pretty consistent regardless of gender or attraction.
Also, other subcultures want in on the act:
http://www.sepulchritude.com/suffer/volumetwo/wordwhores.html
Imagine a Granny Hanky Code. What’s the code for “pinches cheeks”?
hmm. i thought the hanky code is only for gay men?!
if not… damn! last few times i saw a hot butch girl with her bandanas, but she had hers at various spots (like pocket, around the neck, on wrist)… and what colour they were.
Do people actually do this, never seen anyone with a hanky other than a paper one in scotland ! x
Do people actually do this??? Well I know that the gay boys started this back in the day and it’s not super popular among lesbians now days, however the inspiration for this blog happened when I saw several very butch women “flaggin” at the clubs. Maybe it was just a fashion statement? Maybe it was just my hopeful imagination that made me think they were looking for a good time?
But yes, some people do actually do this, mostly in the BDSM scene though, I think.
This is pretty popular in Portland, Oregon’s queer community
the hanky code is coming back! check this site out: hankycode.etsy.com.
I was just trying to figure out if I was missing something, cause my wife, who does ware a questionably short hair cut and dresses often with a mans sleeveless T-shirt, always seems to attract women that fit the lesbian profile. I was just hoping to see if she might be keeping a little secret from me. I don’t mind, I just hate the idea of being left in the dark and made a fool of. I’ve seen and witnessed many tell tell signs in the past, but just figured it was youthful curiosity. Many of her friends could have been seen as those that might go both ways, though when asked, she would comment, at least to me, as if such things were discusting. Yet, whenever we go into a large store, she’ll often get approuched by an apparent lesbian and either flirted with or asked if she needs any help with anything. I can’t help but feel that I’ve possibly been being played. Can anyone help to clue me in, as to what to watch for. I’d like to have a partner that is more honest and opened with me than that, if there is this type of game playing going on.
I like the hanky code, but I don’t wear things that have back pockets most of the time. ._.
This is too many colors for me to remember. LOL I would have to carry the Hanky Code in the form of one of those Kelly Paint Store color charts with me. LOL 🙂
@Sasha Just curious – asking for fun- since you posted this in May 2009 have your chosen colors for you and Remi changed?
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I can’t remember shit most of the time. I think a hanky code app would be perfect….
Yes the hanky code is alive and well. Yes, people do this. All kinds fags, dykes, straights. Just be kinky. That’s the only requirement 😉
I see a lot of hanky’s worn esp around gay pride. Was wondering though… If you wear one as a dew rag, does it mean anything? Cause I wear one once in awhile but never pay attention to color. But if it means something, I wanna know next time a hot lesbian hits on me, what she’s after besides just me.