How To Kiss Girls
I recently received the following email:
(slightly edited for anonymity)
Hi Sasha!
My name is M, and I just have a few questions for you, because I don’t really have anyone else to ask. I came out a while ago, but I still haven’t had a girlfriend yet. I was wondering, how do you kiss a girl? Is there a certain way or trick to it? I feel kinda awkward writing this. My friends say you won’t respond but please do? I don’t have any lesbian friends to talk to.
Heart emoji, M
Well Dear M,
To you and any other young LGBTQ+ reading this, seeking romantic advice on how to kiss a girl, then this is what I have to tell you. RELAX.
When the time comes, and it will, just let it happen. Just kiss her the same way you would want to be kissed. If that’s soft and slow, go for it. In fact, I encourage soft and slow for the first kiss, so that you don’t accidentally hurt her by going in too fast when she’s not ready and banging teeth or heads.
And if you totally misread the situation it gives her time to avoid the kiss, hopefully in time for you to save face by acting like you were just going to take an eyelash off her cheek or something like that. No harm, no foul right? If the worst case scenario happens and you get shot down? Just laugh it off and act like it’s no big deal. Even if you’re dying inside. Always keep a look of confidence about you, even if it’s totally fake. Girls LOVE confidence.
But just like kissing anyone, you’ll have to read the other person in the moment. You’ll know what to do if you just follow your instincts. And maybe binge watch old episodes of the L Word. I used to use it as a test with straight girls to see how into the show they were. When they wanted to binge watch it all night, I knew I had a chance 😉
Good luck young lesbian and to all the others like you. Don’t worry, it gets SO MUCH easier after the first kiss.
You May Also Like
I don’t even know why I’m posting a comment but I think I just miss your work so much. If I remember correctly, I’ve been a fan of your work for like a decade now. I especially love your story about S and Zoe. Do you have more stories like that? I’d love to read them if you have more. It’s really funny. When I have a bad day, I still go back to it and I laugh like it’s the first time I read it. I won’t lie. It’s obvious who S is. I’m not trying to disrespect you or Remi but do you ever google her? Maybe just to check what she’s been doing lately? She started opening up about her childhood and I cried a little bit while she was recalling it. Based on what I read, she treated you very badly but I’m just wondering if her childhood has something to do with her behavior towards you and other people. It’s definitely not a justification because she was still a bitch to you and I’m sad that happened to you but as a fellow woman, I also felt a little sad for her. She didn’t say it but I think she has been sexually abused by her own father and that’s why she treats sex like it’s nothing. Based on your story, the way she had sex with you and with all of the people she met was extremely casual. Sex is just something she do to pass time.
Hi justanotherhomo, thank you so much for your comment. I am so sucky at reading my comments, because I’ve been away for so long I didn’t even expect anyone to comment. But I promise to be better from now on and I really do appreciate the interaction. I’ve neglected CCL for far too long and I’m finally feeling ready to get back into the swing of things … and I hope that I didn’t just jinx myself by saying that. But yea, thanks again justanotherhomo 🙂
I’m praying to the lesbian Gods that you’d make a book and that book would be picked up for a movie or TV series. You make reading exciting. I was never a reader but you made me become one. Have you ever wanted to go back to YouTube and make a short movie? You don’t need a lot of money for it. You just need a camera, a script, and some pretty faces. There are a lot of teenagers and 20 something girls that are doing it and it’s gaining million of views. Don’t hide your talent Sasha. The younger generation of lesbians needs you.
I love this website even though I am a man I always loved lesbian culture I enjoy these stories and the comments keep up the good work