Butch/Femme

  I find it endlessly interesting, the way that us lesbians feel the need to categorize ourselves and each other into these limiting roles of femme, butch, tomboi, androgynous and futch (right in the middle between femme and butch). I'm sure I'm missing some, but these are the ones I hear most often. Actually, I usually just hear femme and butch. But we all know that there's a million shades of gray between those two extremes. Even though I know better then to stereotype and label people, I find myself doing it all the time. If for no other reason then as a means of describing someone to someone else in a casual conversation. Or while people watching at a lesbian club. Last night, Remi and I went to Club Eleven in WeHo and could have been overheard saying any version of, "Look at that butch checking out the femme in blue." Or, "Whoa, is that some butch on butch action?!" Not that there's anything wrong with that. But that's sort of my point. Why is it considered taboo in some circles for two butch women to date?