Remi & Sasha

Lesbians Holding Hands: A political statement?

Although very supportive, my mother occasionally lets things slip out that make me wonder how OK she really is with having a gay daughter. Most of the time I think it’s just that she wishes I wasn’t so out about it. My girlfriend and I are constantly hearing this from her, “Don’t hold hands or kiss in public. It’s just too dangerous. You don’t know what kind of sickos are out there that might want to hurt you.” While that may be true, my girlfriend and I always look at each other and say, “Let someone try something, that will be the worst day of their sorry lives.” Deep down I know my mom has a point. But her point and my point end up in different places. Her take on the situation is that there are prejudice, bigoted asses out there that are ignorant enough to be physically violent under the right circumstances, i.e., drunk or just pissed enough to see that a woman gets more and better quality pussy then they do.
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Butch By Association

  I find it endlessly interesting, the way that us lesbians feel the need to categorize ourselves and each other into these limiting roles of femme, butch, tomboi, androgynous and futch (right in the middle between femme and butch). I'm sure I'm missing some, but these are the ones I hear most often. Actually, I usually just hear femme and butch. But we all know that there's a million shades of gray between those two extremes. Even though I know better then to stereotype and label people, I find myself doing it all the time. If for no other reason then as a means of describing someone to someone else in a casual conversation. Or while people watching at a lesbian club. Last night, Remi and I went to Club Eleven in WeHo and could have been overheard saying any version of, "Look at that butch checking out the femme in blue." Or, "Whoa, is that some butch on butch action?!" Not that there's anything wrong with that. But that's sort of my point. Why is it considered taboo in some circles for two butch women to date?
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The “other girl”

It has come to my attention from several sources, including that of my own personal opinion that the “other girl” has far outgrown that oversimplified pseudonym.…
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